kit10ish
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Re: Writing: Workshop (Exercise 6)
Your biggest mistake
My life is full of big mistakes! All of them lessons I hope I have learned from in years past. Age does not always make you any wiser, and last month was no exception. I have always been told that I am honest to a fault. I used to wonder what that meant, and although I discovered the meaning, it remains a 'fault'. It is said that 'Honesty is the best policy', what they neglected to say was that honesty can be hurtful to others if you do not stop to think before speaking or writing. And it is my honesty that got me in trouble once more.
My ex-husband's new wife suddenly emailed me. She was searching for the truth, or atleast my side of the story. Apparently she had been told many lies by both the man in question and his mother. I shared with her all that my son and I had gone through. We are in agreement that there is much denial going on with that family. Being the honest person that I am, I had emailed my parents to share with them this new contact, and began forwarding her emails and my replies. This is where the foot in mouth disease struck.
With no other thought than trying to help this woman, we discussed many issues. One of those issues was forgiveness. I was writing to her saying that it is difficult to forgive others if you cannot forgive yourself first. And if you cannot forgive, you end up hanging on to the past, and throwing it in loved ones' faces time and time again.. I used my mother as an example. No, it never crossed my mind that what I had written would be read by my mother. All I thought about was sharing the correspondence between this woman and I. Big mistake!
Needless to say, my mother is angry and upset with my honest words about her. I am once again persona non grata. And she has cut off communications with me. Our relationship has always been on very shaky grounds. And there have been many mistakes I have made that she has never forgiven me for, and I am not the only family member who has had to endure this. Our lives had always been one of tip toeing around my mom, taking great care not to 'set her off'. There have been a couple times in my life where she has cut communications with me for years at a time. It has only been within the last five years that we finally were able to have a normal, loving relationship. And now I've gone and blown that totally. I have written a letter of apology. She still has not responded in any way, shape or form. I was honest. The rest of my family know my words were truth. And her response as is to be expected. She cannot forgive.
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Mar/5/2007, 12:36 am
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