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religion difference

I'm pretty sure the bible says somewhere that you shouldn't date someone with different religious beliefs than you. I've always thought this to mean like the Jews shouldn't date the Budists or whatever. But I think that like you could date within the doniminations (seeing as how there are a bunch in the Christian religion).

1. What are your thoughts on dating someone with a different christian religion (and I consider Catholic part of it too).

2. Am I totally absurd for thinking that way?

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7/2/2007, 5:03 am

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I believe it depends entirely upon what each person's core beliefs are. It would be hard to coexist with someone whom you believed was going to hell, etc. I personally, need to be in a relationship where I am understood and my core values are the same as my significant other's. Of course, there are some variants, but I think to make a relationship successful on more than just outward levels, both of the people in the relationship must believe the same things on a deep level.

7/4/2007, 12:42 am

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and if there was only a slight difference?

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7/4/2007, 4:51 am

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It depends entirely upon whehter or not the difference was in their core values. Say if one person believes Jesus is God and the only way to Heaven, the other is a Buddhist and believes Buddha is the only way to their own spiritual heaven, how can they coexist? Now, if a couple were together and one person believes illegal immigrants shouldn't be allowed to hold jobs unless they attain citizenship and the other believes they should be, it probably won't be a huge cause of turmoil. Possibly, but not likely. But then again, if a man believes abortion is wrong but the woman doesn't and the couple gets pregnant, that is obviously going to be a huge point of turmoil when she decides to terminate the pregnancy. Quite possibly and almost definitely, it will be the breaking point. So it really depends. I think in a relationship that you and your significant other should hold the same values in the things that are most important to you both. If you don't both vote yes on proposition 25, which reads that road signs should be put upside down on the road, it's probably going to be fine. Really, it just depends. I've seen couples live happily with tons of differences in belief, but it's usually not a relationship I envy. It works, yes. But does it thrive on an intimate and emotional level? Probably not.

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If you're just talking like Baptist vs. Methodist, then I really don't see a problem unless one of you is very ardent about everything that your respective denomination believes and wants to fight about it and make you change churches. Like, for example, a friend of mine was Baptist and his girlfriend was some other denomination, and his family didn't want him to date anyone besides Baptists. It got ugly for awhile, but eventually worked out. So, basically, if you're both cool with the differences in details, then I don't think it's bad for you two to be together. And I most definitely don't think it's morally wrong or anything...the verse you're talking about (don't be unequally yoked and whatnot) is different than your situation. Although, like Sarah said, it's the places you are each at in your relationship with God that's more important.

I could ramble more, but I really probably shouldn't.

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