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New Here? Make This Your First Stop
"You gain strength, courage, and confidence
by every experience in which you really stop
to look fear in the face. You are able to
say to yourself, "I lived through this
horror. I can take the next thing that comes
along." You must do the thing you think you
cannot do."
Eleanor Roosevelt
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If you are new to our site and new to learning about NPD/Psychopaths we would like to help you get started to understanding and overcoming this difficult stage of your life.
You are not alone...
Some quotes from our Members....
"I mourn the loss of what could have been and what should have been and the realization that he will never be any different. It's quite shocking to realize you wasted a whole year of love and time and money on someone who never really cared about you because they can't. It hurts! I hate it too. I'm still spending alot of time trying to understand and deal with the pain"
"Even now I find it difficult to fathom how you can give so much of yourself to a person and have them so totally wipe it all away as if it never happened with no remorse and go on their merry way leaving a path of destruction behind them."
"I didn't know another human being could be so cruel, manipulative, deceptive and twist reality so much and just walk away like nothing ever happened. It has left me questioning myself, who I am as a person, fundamental laws of reality and life itself."
"I lived a decade with an N. Anything he did was only done if he reaped some recognition/attention reward for his own popularity with our friends. Behind closed doors the craziness continued until I thought I was going to loose my mind. He would twist and turn my words, his logic made no sense but that never stopped him. My point is some people are culls, dont bother trying to change them, dont change yourself to suit them. If you're in a relatioinship with one. GET OUT -- RUN HARD RUN FAST and never look back because that face you once cared for is only a farce, its a ploy to keep you as a plaything."
"Eventually, you will come to the painful realization that you were nothing more than an instrument of their self gratification, then we're as easily discarded as a piece of gum that's lost its flavor."
"You are dealing with a totally delusional human being, who builds his own fantasies about his reality and believes his own pathological lies. How can you possibly hope to have a healthy relationship with someone who bases his whole existence on deceit? IMPOSSIBLE! And don't kid yourself - They know exactly what they are doing - They prey, victimize, and devastate."
"I spent 7 years with my N, trying to recapture the first 3 months, and yet it’s only today that it occurred to me that the first 3 months were NOT who he was; the rest of the time was!"
"As human beings, we cannot grasp evil so cold. We just cannot imagine this whole part of our lives that was so important, was a big nothing. A big sick lie. When it's over, we will be forgotten like yesterdays trash."
"If you want genuine heartfelt advice from one of the many on this forum who have had their entire lives destroyed on every level - emotionally, financially, or psychologically: BE AFRAID, BE VERY AFRAID!!!! RUN LIKE HELL AND NEVER LOOK BACK!!!!"
"I'm mourning the myth of what I thought was reality. I wanted it to go back to like when we first met. He was so charming,humorous and complimentary---unlike any guy I ever met. He found me at a vulnerable time. My ego needed a boost. But even in the midst of this charm, there was also this gut feeling that something was not right..."
"I had no idea there were others going through this very same thing."
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Suggested Roadmap Steps and our most Frequently Asked Questions(FAQs) to help us learn about N/P and ourselves.
 First Stop Safety in Abusive Relationships
If you are in a partner relationship Echo No Longer
Learn About Narcissistic Personality Disorder
The Psychopath
The Abuser's Tactics
Ourselves, The Targets
Survival Skills
Can I read some words from authors about NPD?
FAQs
Are You Involved with a Narcissist? - Take these quizzes
What is a Narcissist?
Please Help Me Survive This
Why am I Having Such a Hard Time Getting Over This?
Who is Likely to Get Targeted?
Why do I have this Obsessive Thinking About This?
I felt sorry for him and only wanted to help him
Can you Give Me Some Tips on How to Handle Him?
How Do I Recover From This?
Can I get some Advice from the Veterans to Us Newbies?
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One "MUST-READ" fun and healthy learning perspective is "At the End of the Sky by LynnS" This is a most enjoyable stop along your road of knowledge. You'll see that on our front page.
There are many important and enjoyable sections to our five websites. There are sections for abusive families, at-risk N/P children and workplace Ns and Ps. We hope that you will click on them all and come to understand Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the Psychopath in our lives and in society.
The best things we learn aren't about Ns or Ps, it is what we learn about ourselves.
We're Glad You're Here and please don't hesitate to contact the admins by PM (or femfree@yahoo.com) if you have any questions and please do feel free to hop on our message boards when you feel comfortable. Our members will be with you every step of the way.
WELCOME TO OUR SITE
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The picture above was designed for us by Kalyca Brennan. She was working on some graphics for our site and one day she mentioned she would like to work on one for our home page for our former MSN site. (MSN sites closed Feb/09) She asked if I had any thoughts. I said "Kalyca, if possible I would like something that showed one person reaching out to help another." Kalyca went to work and we love her ideas and we know you will too.
Contains art by William Whitaker
http://www.williamwhitaker.com/
Last edited by femfree, Mar/23/2009, 9:46 pm
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motherslittlehelper
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Re: New Here? Make This Your First Stop
Hi Im new here, my Mother recently died and I found this forum whilst looking for information for adults who have been abused by a parent/s, I had also been told that writing everything in a journal or blog helps so Ive done this, and Ive also created a forum for other survivors, I havent checked out all of the info on this forum yet but I plan to, and its a relief to find that a forum such as this exists, and also that I am not alone.I was both physically and emotionally abused by my late Mother.For the whole of my life thus far (57 years) Now though I would like to rebuild my life and find out who I really am. Is this something that happens to others? My late Mother has also left a trail of destruction behind her, and Ive also been disowned by my family, Orchestrated by my late mother,but Ill survive, I know I will.
Thank You .
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a shape from within the heart of twisted flames rose up, and there in all her glory stood the PHOENIX
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