femfree
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Success Stories
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NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
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Abuse Survivor Quotes
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http://narcissisticpersonalitydisorder.aimoo.com/
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 "Hi Im hoping you remember me. I was on your site a while back. I met her in your chatroom - I couldn't believe how much we had in common so much alike it was amazing. We began a blizzard of emails. She was in S. America doing a job there and I flew down, then she flew back to the States and we went like this for over a year. She's coming back now to work here. We're getting married. I've got the ring I can't wait to see the expression on her face. The N is so far in the distance now and I owe my, heck OUR recovery to you and your board."
Note. MSN decided to terminate chatroom service in 2005. This member wrote me in 2005 - CONGRATULATIONS best of luck for your future happiness. femfree
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I have been dating someone - an old friend actually - who is a great guy - the true opposite of what I had. It is super nice to have someone to do things with, etc, and to feel loved and respected in a relationship - but in no way am I ready to give up my alone time or my time with my DD. I think you learn to have your own boundaries and put yourself first. It can feel odd at first but necessary I think.
Afterall - after being in a bad relationship for so long, you have to rebuild your relationship with yourself first and them you just might be ready to let someone else in little by little!
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I am going out with a really sweet- low key man. He is very kind. He is the opposite of the xnh. So far, we are good friends who laugh a lot together.
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My first husband was a N. It was awful. Then I dated a slew of jerks--
17 yrs. ago I fell in love with my normal, exciting, funny, heart stopping, thrilling, sexy husband. We have chemistry. I believe it's there or it's not. If it's not, it probably will never be. I hope you find someone healthy for you and exciting too!
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Presently, my life is going great, rather fantastic with an awesome Man who loves, honors and respects me.
When I was vacillating in that hell like so many of you still questioning and under the spell, I literally thought I would die.
Again, I can't believe how I allowed myself to be catapulted into the scariest dimension of my existence!
Just to let you know - once you cross back into "Reality" blessings of Light and Healing await you as you are then reborn with clarity and all the former disturbances forgiven with a greater compassion and zeal for life!
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Four years next month since my divorce from XNH came through. I think I expected things to get better straight away - for me to 'get over it' - but it was much more gradual than I'd imagined. I'm so impatient. Having said that, to any of you reading this, getting away from an N, if you can, can only be a good thing in the long run. There's not a lot that can unsettle me these days and I'd rather stick pins in my eyes than end up with another N. Talk about high maintenance!
I look back at the abuse XNH dished out to me and just think, "Huh...?". Just goes to show that one of the differences between me then and now is that now I can think straight!
I come here very rarely now, but this forum, the managers and the other members here during my prolific attendance really helped me through. I just tend to just look in occasionally without posting. Like I said previously here, it's like holding onto a corner of an old security blanket...
Sticking to NC and the passage of time will makes things better. You are all so much stronger than you think.
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I joined this group when I was pregnant and destroyed by my ex. I had only just become aware of NPD. I came to this group confused, broken and not thinking I could ever get over him and what he'd done to me... even worse I thought I couldn't get by with out him as I loved him so much despite the abuse? Seems crazy now.
For a time I wished I could just disappear and not be alive anymore. Everyday life was that painful.
Well... I'm still here over a year and a half later and guess what...
I'm HAPPY!
Something I never thought I was capable of being again. I am also free... I am my own person, I make my own choices, including who I am friends with, what I wear and what I eat... (some of you may know what I'm talking about here) Doesn't sound like much but it means everything to me.
I have a beautiful son who is perfect in every way.
Don't get me wrong, I am no perfect survivor of the N. I N dipped, I even took him back at one point, convinced that there was a chance he could change. Nope. No chance. Its all a learning curve, and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger is a very truthful saying.
So thanks to this group (especially some close friends I made here) and the support of my family, N is not in our lives at all...
I have taken drastic measures to keep NC in place. I have given up friends that have connections with him. I don't go to places where I suspect he may be, I've a new home... new phone numbers. I have covered all my tracks and it has been so so worth it.
Myself and my children are safe, secure and happy. It is possible. Trust me. Just stay NC and time will make the pain go away.
Last edited by femfree, Mar/21/2009, 1:58 am
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Children? They don't want presents, they just want to see your face light up when they come in the room.
A member's quote
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