Serenity5
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 Greetings a newbie here
I was in and still am though without my partipation.. I think.. in an abusive relationship with a narcississtic. The abuse doesn;t stop where i am.. 2 year late. He and some of his buds are still at it.
Sometiems I almost believ what they say that'm mentally ill.. when my therapsit says I'mnot. I still feel thjat way becasue the abuse is so subtle. If he hit or I had wounds.. I could show people. But my hurt and wounds are all inside.. and he's not stopping. I know he is trying ot hard ot alienate me from others.. and not succeeding but he undermines me left, right and cente.
When I succeed at anythihg he gets so furious that he tries to find another way to undermine me. Make me look as if I have no idea what I'm talkng about. I couldn't do that, I'm not a nice person, I'm not helpful, I can't help a snail out of his shell. I'm useless and selfish. He's the vistim.. I'm just an awful person. There is no way I could acheive anything to assist anyone.
After 2 years he is still going on like this or someone very close to hm is.
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Oct/5/2009, 8:09 am
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LynnS
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Re: Greetings a newbie here
Hello, Serenity5. Welcome to the forum.
The undermining of your confidence that this man does is very typical of an abuser. It does a lot of emotional damage and leaves emotional scars. Can you cut off contact with him?
I'm sure the members would like to talk to you about this situation, too, but they may not see your post here. This is the policy section where we administrators post the guidelines for the forum. The member discussions for situations like yours are on our General Discussion Narcissists board. I hope you will post your story there so the members can respond as well.
And again, welcome. 
Lynn
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"The best way out is always through."--Robert Frost
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Oct/5/2009, 8:36 pm
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