lizzi3
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3 Strikes - and I guess I'm out - help!
I could really use some advice from someone. Please help me to put what seems to be happening to me in perspective.
I posted recently that my N of almost 28 years has pretty much completely abandoned me. He's followed the whole, complicated N recipe from the beginning. OK. I'm dealing with my hell as best as anyone can. Strike 1.
In my post I mentioned that I have a business partner (with issues). She basically sold me a "bill of goods" about 3 years ago, I will admit. Promised me the world, delivered nothing, and her name is on 2 businesses (one for profit, one non-profit, which is'nt even up and running yet). Never hear from her anymore. (as an aside, she also professed early on, that we have become so close, she considers me one of her best friends. We DID speak every day, and she knew (and seemed to) understand all of my problems with N - had empathy, etc.) Have since found out from just about everyone whom I've introduced her to (at our parties, etc.-before "we" (N&I) completely hated each other) -that nobody can stand her, she's a total phony, a-hole, etc. - why did I partner with her? OK - I'm mad at myself for falling for her crap, but I'm also forgiving myself too. Her husband (a lawyer) - is nicer than she is, and is handling our mediation (for practically nothing) - this is where things get sticky. P.S. ... N is driving him crazy at this point (surprise, surprise).
Anyway, no matter what the circumstances are.... She has basically abandoned me - as a partner, and a friend. Strike 2.
My daughter and I have always been very close (she is now working and currently living in the house). She hates the N almost more than I do, and (even though this isn't something you should discuss with your kids, reality is reality, and she's as much involved in this as I am). Anyway, recently - about 6 weeks ago, let's say... she has completely "cut me off". No communication, doesn't want to hear me talk about N (OK, I respect that) - however, I can't even say "Hi. How was your day? or anything!!! I have no idea how her life is going at all. I'm given the cold shoulder if I even walk into the same room as her - all I hear is "I don't want to talk!! Give me my space, etc."). Strike 3.
I feel completely alone,no one to talk to, miserable, and totally paranoid!! I'm a firm believer that we all create our own lives - why am I creating this horror show??!! Did I "call forth" an N to ruin 3 decades of my life?
What the HELL??!!!
Sorry this is so long.. any words of wisdom?
Thanks -
Lizzi
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Nov/1/2009, 11:14 am
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echo8
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Re: 3 Strikes - and I guess I'm out - help!
Hi Izzi. Your experiences are similar to so many others on this board, so don't feel you are isolated and noone cares...
Have you been into the chat room here? If not, I'd recommend you give it a go, it's a relief to meet others who understand where you're coming from and can offer support and advice. I wish you the comfort of strangers and friends, you aren't alone. (((echo)))
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Nov/7/2009, 4:36 pm
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