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Helping Our Children - Links & Information
OUR CHILDREN
If I asked you what children need in order to be psychologically healthy, you would probably answer: love and attention. Of course, you would be right--love and attention are essential for every child. But, there is a third psychological need critical to the emotional well-being of children: "voice."
Giving Your Children Voice, Dr. Richard Grossman
http://www.voicelessness.com/parenting.html
Emotionally abused children grow up with significantly altered perceptions so that they "see" behaviors—their own and others'—through a filter of distortion. Many emotionally abused children engage in a lifelong drive for the approval (which they translate as "love") of others. So eager are they for love—and so convinced that they don't deserve it—that they are prime candidates for abuse within intimate relationships.
You Carry the Cure in Your Heart by Andrew Vachss
http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/disp_9408_a.html
"People who know and feel what happened to them in their childhood will never
want to harm others."
Alice Miller
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Help for Parents from a psychologist
http://www.angriesout.com/index.htm#parents
Resources for children
http://www.childwitnesstoviolence.org/resources/resouces_library.html
When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft
http://www.amazon.com/When-Dad-Hurts-Lundy-Bancroft/dp/0399151109
An Umbrella for Alex by Dr. Mary Gay, Personality Disorders Awareness Network
(for children with PD parents)
http://www.pdan.org/store.php
Hint: Ask your librarian or local women's shelters about recommended books for children to cope with family abuse situations.
Just Like His Father? by Dr. Liane J. Leedom
http://www.parentingtheatriskchild.com/
Understanding the Borderline Mother - Lawson
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0765703319/ref=pe_606_2583960_pe_ar_t10765703319/103-2636113-9972646?n=283155
Helping Children Understand their Parent's Mental Illness
http://www.bpd411.org/parentalwish.html
http://www.mhasp.org/coping/guardians.html
Tell Your Children the Truth by Dr. Sam Vaknin
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse13.html
During the Teen Years
http://www.4therapy.com/consumer/conditions/item.php?uniqueid=6261
Reactions - Childhood through adolescence
http://www.4therapy.com/consumer/conditions/item.php?uniqueid=5176&categoryid=426
Talking to Children About Abuse
http://www.bbc.co.uk/parenting/kids/safety_talking.shtml
Good Touch/Bad Touch.com
http://www.goodtouchbadtouch.com/
National Centre for Missing/Exploited Children
http://www.missingkids.com/missingkids/servlet/PublicHomeServlet?LanguageCountry=en_US
Dr. R. Grossman's site on Nism/Relationships/Children's 'Voice'and Genetics
http://www.voicelessness.com/
Helping Children - for caregivers
http://www.lfcc.on.ca/CCFJS_trainingmaterial.html
A Family That Fights
An 8 year old boy & his two younger siblings live in a home where the father abuses the mother. Picture book with illustrations in pencil, 4 - 12 years.
A Safe Place
http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0807572128/absolutsearch05/104-4241252-4924758
Last edited by femfree, Mar/17/2009, 12:33 pm
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Re: OUR CHILDREN
why i fight...
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Nov/9/2008, 7:33 am
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