liveswithan
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 I Need Help With A Friend. Need Some Assistance/Advice
Im new here, so bear with me. Sorry it might be a little long.
My story is I have a friend whos spouse drives me crazy, and I feel they are a N, but Im not sure on how to handle this? Ever since I met my friend, I noticed that there spouse never cared on what they had to say. It was always there way, and my friend was always wrong. There spouses belittles them saying they cant do anything right. My friend supports the family to the best of there ability, its just that times are tough. My friend lost there job, and try so hard to get another one. They had to go on medicaid and food stamps, just to provide for the family. Well my friends spouse had a fit, and said how humilitated they were to be on this, and blamed my friend for not having a job. They were never to blame. Plus said they werent going to use it period,no matter what. My friends spouse has to always be the center of attention. They love to get praise from there employment, and thinks there employer cant go on without them. My friends spouse is so high on themselves, that they wont even show themselves nude. Doesnt give into sex or show any emotions whatsoever. No emotion anytime. Always will talk about there finances and there children. When it comes to my friend, weather it was about there job,hobbies,politics,basically anything to do with my friends life. There spouse was cold shows no emotion or interest in anything they say or do. They have to have the best too, just like everyone else. Best schools,musical lessons for there kids,spending like theres no tomorrow,I feel there going to make my friend bankrupt.I could go on, but I just sick and tired of watching my friends spouse put them down. Belittling them, I feel that they are emotionally abusing my friend. To the point they thought it was all them. I told my friend, it has nothing to do with them. I feel this situation has to stop, expessially since its rubbing off on the kids too. Can anyone tell me if Im wrong, or tell me on what to do next to help my friend. I feel they should get out of the relationship.
Thanks for your time and help...
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Jul/11/2009, 7:40 pm
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LynnS
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Re: I Need Help With A Friend. Need Some Assistance/Advice
Hi, liveswith. Welcome to the forum.
This is actually an information section of the board. The discussions take place here:
http://www.runboard.com/bnarcissisticabuserecovery.f1
If you would like to copy your post and repost it on that board, the members will respond to you.
I will say to you, though, that it sounds as if your friend is certainly in a difficult situation, but getting out has to be your friend's decision. Does your friend think it's time to leave? As much as we all want to help people that we see going through this kind of thing, it's really up to them. Until he or she has had enough, there isn't too much you or anyone else can do to get them to leave. You can offer moral support and friendship. Beyond that, it's up to your friend.
Please do post on the general board, though. I know the members will respond.
Lynn
Last edited by LynnS, Jul/11/2009, 8:47 pm
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