Jamlyn
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New Member's Own Story with Son
My son is 13 years old. After a great deal of research I have become to accept the fact that he may very well be a psychopath. I have given custody to his father 2 months ago. His father does not believe there is anything wrong with my son.
I used to come home with him running out to the car crying that his older sister hurt him. Happened almost every time. Come to find out, he was playing me. He threatened her with knives, called her verbally abusive horrible names, screamed at her etc. When I would pull into the driveway he would turn on the tears. He has in the past killed two kittens of hers at separate times. Of course, it was never his fault.
Within the last 6 months I began to recognize his patterns and confronted him. This is when the tables began to turn on me. He would call me vial names when before he would never consider swearing in front of me. He has used his dad against me bringing the police to our house not once, but twice now. Fortunately this last time, there were witnesses. He claimed I hit him while I was standing there in front of the police with a bloody leg from his physical abuse. The police asked him where did your mother hit you? He said "here." They said we don't see anything. He said "and here." Again they said we don't see anything. The police told my daughter "Seems like little guy turned into macho man." My daughter and her friend both said "oh you have no idea."
In the meantime, my ex came barging into my house. I was so upset I said, "just get him out of here." My ex looked at everyone including me and calmly said, "Yes, this is an unhealthy environment." The next day I handed custody over to him.
Since then I have seen my son on a few visitations. Immediately upon driving away from his dad's house he would begin to chastise me. "You have a lousy job mom." "I feel like the Fresh Prince of Bellaire. Came from a poor home to a rich one." "I love being with my rich daddy."
One time he called me when he was with his dad at the bowling alley. His dad claims we told him he could never see his nephew (my daughter's baby) again. Totally untrue. We never even discussed it. My grandson lives with me here with my daughter. Of course he'd see him! But my ex claims that "why did he break out in tears after he called you?"
He has texted my daughter with foul language. His dad refuses to look at them. When gently confronting my son, he tells me he can do whatever he wants.
This last weekend he pulled even more abuse and my daughter stood up for me. There was a lot of yelling, reacting. I am not even sure how it started. I made him a malt, made him a nice dinner, then wham. Then he called his dad to come pick him up. Told his dad not to call the cops, just meet him outside. I have not heard from him since although it's only been a few days.
My daughter recorded the entire scene. My mother wanted me to let me ex hear it. I told her I cannot do that because he will not believe me nor will he listen to it. He will blame me and my daughter as he has done so smoothly so many times in the past few months.
My mother is very afraid of my son hurting my grandson to get back at us. She has said for years that he killed those kittens on purpose but of course at that time I could never have believed it.
Then my mother suggested my son is psychopath. She wasn't being sarcastic, she was serious. So I began to research the condition, the symptoms, and the projections. It all seems to fit. I came across this board and saw the post from femFree and was so THANKFUL~! I'm not crazy! I'm not alone!
I don't know what to do, I need more help understanding this as a single mom who has been through so much abuse in so little time. Thanks for reading.
God Bless,
Jamlyn
Last edited by femfree, Feb/27/2009, 8:29 am
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Dec/2/2008, 1:26 pm
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topaz123
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Re: New Member's Own Story with Son
Hi jamlyn. I have a P daughter. She is an adult now and thankfully out of my life.
These children of ours know exactly which buttons to push for us..and they are encouraged by our reactions. Don't give any reaction, try to show no emotion..and above all else, read and learn as much as you can to protect yourself.
Your son is young, its early days for you, you are the parent, he should be towing your line, not you creeping around trying to keep the peace. Give him what he wants.he wants to stay with the rich daddy, he got it.now he can stay there.
As he is still coming into your home( when he feels like it)and leaves when he feels like it, if he feels like it.any chance you could invest in one of those tiny security cameras
I had small animals killed too...of course, it was an accident, not her fault etc..and it took her to be almost 20 years old before it finally dawned on me what was wrong.
You are not alone, there are many of us who walk in your shoes.hugs.
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Dec/2/2008, 8:09 pm
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topaz123
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Re: New Member's Own Story with Son
Hi. It takes a professional to diagnose our children. As mothers we know something isn't right, but we can't diagnose.
I meant the camera for your own safety and maybe for evidence in the future.
Your son has a lovely triangle going here.you on one side and his father on the other.perfect! now he can play you both to his little hearts content...sorry.
I think teenagers can often be very difficult without being disordered but life can only be made more difficult for you if his father is enabling him to be as he is aswell.
My husband couldn't believe his beautiful daughter was P and it wasn't until she started making false allegations about him til he saw the light aswell. They always bite the hand that feeds them...the minute his father says NO and means it, your son will want to come back and will likely give you terrible stories of how his father treated him.
Has your son had any sort of diagnosis at all?
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Dec/2/2008, 9:30 pm
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