Jessica072
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Depression, projection & the N
Hi Dr Vaknin
I wondered what happened how the narcissist feels when he alienates those who have been close to him.
My ex NPD partner suffered from depression and projected a lot of his problems onto me. I have now decided to go "no contact" and the only other intimate relationship he has is the one with his parents.
How will he feel now he has no-one to project/blame for his problems?
Will he turn them inwards and become even more depressed?
Or will he feel relieved that he has lost a big source of stress to him (me) and therefore his need to project will lessen?
Thank you
Jessica
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Aug/4/2009, 6:03 am
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samvaknin
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Re: Depression, projection & the N
The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, half-truths and outlandish interpretations of events around him.
All abusers present with rigid and infantile (primitive) defense mechanisms: splitting, projection, Projective Identification, denial, intellectualization, and narcissism. But some abusers go further and decompensate by resorting to self-delusion. Unable to face the dismal failures that they are, they partially withdraws from reality.
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Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5000
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Aug/17/2009, 10:14 am
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