purplesage
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Why is it so hard to let go and why does he pretend to be happy?
Hi Dr. Vaknin,
My relationship with my N is over... but I'm in this excruciating pain over my loss. I emaied him a few times, wanted to share my feling with him. He never responded to any of them, but today he wrote again: "The relationship is over. I don't love you anymore."
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Oct/19/2009, 9:55 am
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samvaknin
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Re: Why is it so hard to let go and why does he pretend to be happy?
The dissolution of the abuser's marriage or other meaningful (romantic, business, or other) relationships constitutes a major life crisis and a scathing narcissistic injury. To soothe and salve the pain of disillusionment, he administers to his aching soul a mixture of lies, distortions, half-truths and outlandish interpretations of events around him.
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse14.html
His state of mind:
Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5000
Your state of mind:
I miss him so much - I want him back!
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4934
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Copy-paste these links:
Encyclopedia of Narcissism and Psychopathy
http://samvak.tripod.com/siteindex.html
Buy 9 books about narcissists, psychopaths, and abusive relationships
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html
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Nov/4/2009, 11:31 am
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