abelladawn
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How do you get over it? How do I stop the feelings?
I am new here ..I have been reading so many responses that are almost mirror images of what my relationship was...(that is so hard to write..was not is)Am I crazy to miss him so much, I am intelligent, educated and now know I cannot change him. I loved a man that was a myth, a mirage, a fantasy...who I do not think is capable of loving me or anyone. It hurts so deep, but I have to be strong as the pain caused during the bad times of the relationship hurt me deeper. The temper tantrums over something insignificant that would make him storm out the door, saying he was leaving for good, staying gone for a day or two till I begged him to come back. How did I allow this to happen, to become so dependent, so addicted to him? He's been gone this time 5 days now...my head says he must not come back, so why am I so sad, why does it hurt so much?
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Oct/21/2009, 1:43 pm
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samvaknin
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Re: How do you get over it? How do I stop the feelings?
These may be of help - click on the links:
Rescue Fantasies - Surviving the Narcissist
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq80.html
The Malignant Optimism of the Abused
http://samvak.tripod.com/journal27.html
The Inverted Narcissist - Codependence and Relationships with Abusive
Narcissists
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq66.html
Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders22.html
The Dependent Patient - A Case Study
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders56.html
Danse Macabre - Trauma bonding and the Stockholm Syndrome
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily.html
The Cult of the Narcissist
http://samvak.tripod.com/journal79.html
The Narcissist's Victims
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq38.html
Victim Reactions to Abuse by Narcissists and Psychopaths
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders70.html
Mourning the Narcissist
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq68.html
The Three Forms of Closure
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse17.html
Back to La-la Land
http://samvak.tripod.com/journal78.html
The Spouse/Mate/Partner of the Narcissist
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq6.html
Divorcing the Narcissist and the Narcissistic Psychopath - How Do I Get Rid of Him?
http://samvak.tripod.com/5.html
Traumas as Social Interactions
http://samvak.tripod.com/trauma.html
How Victims are Affected by Abuse
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily21.html
How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily22.html
How Victims are Affected by Abuse - Recovery and Healing
http://samvak.tripod.com/abusefamily23.html
Narcissists and Personality disordered Mates, Spouses, and Partners
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5013
Projection and Projective Identification - Abuser in Denial
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5002
Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4938
Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5000
Guilt? What guilt?
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4931
Narcissists, psychopaths, sex, and marital fidelity
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4920
The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4959
I miss him so much - I want him back!
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4934
Take care.
Sam
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Copy-paste these links:
Encyclopedia of Narcissism and Psychopathy
http://samvak.tripod.com/siteindex.html
Buy 9 books about narcissists, psychopaths, and abusive relationships
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/thebook.html
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