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Ns and sex
Do narcissists have problems with affection when having sex?
My husband wont kiss me, or hold. He will not have sex facing each other. He talks about sex all the time. When I ask him to share in the experience, and try doing things different. he says I am selfish, and it's all about me. When he thrusts to hard and it hurts me, he says I like it, I tell him I don't and ask him to promise to not do it again. But he still does. He says he doesn't want to hurt me, it's that he likes it like that. Is this a narcissists trait, or is this something else
Thank you for help.
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Re: Nh and sex
To him you are an object, an instrument of gratification. Your wishes and preferences do not count. He expresses his latent sadism and overt misogyny in sex. He uses rough sex to avoid "mushy" intimacy with you.
Narcissists abhor and dread getting emotionally intimate. The cerebral ones regard sex as a maintenance chore, something they have to do in order to keep their Source of Secondary Supply. The somatic narcissist treats women as objects and sex as a means to obtaining Narcissistic Supply.
Moreover, many narcissists tend to frustrate women. They refrain from having sex with them, tease them and then leave them, resist flirtatious and seductive behaviours and so on. Often, they invoke the existence of a girlfriend/fiancée/spouse as the "reason" why they cannot have sex or develop a relationship. But this is not out of loyalty and fidelity in the empathic and loving sense. This is because they wish (and often succeed) to sadistically frustrate the interested party.
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq79.html
Approach-Avoidance Repetition Complex and Fear of Intimacy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/5000
The Narcissist or Psychopath Hates your Independence and Personal Autonomy
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4959
Violent, Vindictive, Sadistic, and Psychopathic Narcissists
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4938
Read these texts:
Question:
Are narcissists mostly hyperactive or hypoactive sexually and to what extent
are they likely to be unfaithful in marriage?
Answer:
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq29.html
Narcissists are repulsed and intimidated by intimacy
http://samvak.tripod.com/intimacyabuse.html
http://samvak.tripod.com/journal60.html
http://samvak.tripod.com/abuse14.html
Our sexual behavior expresses not only our psychosexual makeup but also the
entirety of our personality. Sex is the one realm of conduct which involves
the full gamut of emotions, cognitions, socialization, traits, heredity, and
learned and acquired behaviors. By observing one's sexual predilections and
acts, the trained psychotherapist and diagnostician can learn a lot about
the patient.
Inevitably, the sexuality of patients with personality disorders is thwarted
and stunted. In the Paranoid Personality Disorder, sex is depersonalized and
the sexual partner is dehumanized. The paranoid is besieged by persecutory
delusions and equates intimacy with life-threatening vulnerability, a
"breach in the defenses" as it were. the paranoid uses sex to reassure
himself that he is still in control and to quell is anxiety.
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders47.html
Narcissists are either cerebral or somatic. In other words, they either
generate their Narcissistic Supply by applying their bodies or by applying
their minds.
Continue to read this article here (click on this link):
http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/journal21.html
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