LynnS
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Entitlement: Peter Pan
Illustration: Peter Pan & Wendy, 1915, by J.M. Barrie, Illustrator Ellen Trimby
From Peter Pan and Wendy by J.M. Barrie
"Peter: Why do you have to spoil everything? We have fun, don't we? I taught you to fly and to fight. What more could there be?
Wendy: There is so much more.
Peter: What? What else is there?
Wendy: I don't know. I guess it becomes clearer when you grow up.
Peter: Well, I will not grow up. You cannot make me!"
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The overwhelming sense of entitlement displayed by a Narcissistic relative led me to the internet searching for answers to the question, "Why does he do that?" The first article I read online was by Lynne Namka. In it I found the term "narcissistic personality". The lightbulb went on and the education began. This article is geared toward entitlement issues in children and I think it's helpful, not only in explaining narcissism and the roots of entitlement issues to us, but also, it gives a good perspective that a child could understand and recognize as selfish behavior in their peers. I have recommended in the past that if you need to explain a narcissistic adult's behavior to your child, this article might be a good basis on which to launch the discussion. It's often easier for a child to understand something if they are given an example they recognize in their own world or peer group.
In the end I realized that the Narcissist is indeed very much like Peter Pan, the little boy who never grew up.
Lynn
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You Owe Me! Children of Entitlement by Lynne Namka
http://members.aol.com/AngriesOut/teach9.htm
quote:
"I want ___, Give it to me ___, Buy me ___" seem to be the constant demand of some children. Some children feel owed or entitled to get their way. While it is normal for a child to ask for what he wants, some children are overly demanding and needy. They have not learned to balance taking from others with giving; they view other people as existing merely to give to them."
Now We Are Six by Joanna Ashmun
http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/six.html
quote:
"Narcissists have normal, even superior, intellectual development while remaining emotionally and morally immature. Dealing with them can give you the sense of trying to have a reasonable discussion with a very clever six-year-old"
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"The best way out is always through."--Robert Frost
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Oct/26/2008, 1:01 pm
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