jodyrn
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The wife of a Narcissist
The wife of a Narcissist
He may look charming, successful, secure and kind Yet they prey on those with low esteem; those easy to entwine But soon the mask comes off; the true face is then revealed
However, the abuse and control, he meticulously conceals
He isolates you, breaks your spirit, he is the one you serve He convinces you that this treatment is entirely what you deserve
“You’re not living up to par; you’re not meeting my needs”So you give up on your goals, making sure that he succeeds.
He slowly turns us from our family, steering us away from friends He belittles and intimidates others, he doesn’t care who he offends
His family appears to takes you in. They are kind to your face. Then they show up in court with him, making you out to be a disgrace
He lies, he cheats, and he seems to never get caught, I often felt I should have done better, that it was all my fault,
“I provide well for you, we have everything we could want”. “Fine clothes, big house, even nice cars to drive around and flaunt”.
Yet I feel empty with all these things we possess,What good are they when we lack love, respect, and closeness?
I used to cry almost every evening, feeling hopeless and alone I wish I had the courage to leave, but felt I couldn’t make it on my own
Look what it is doing to the children; they don’t deserve to live in strife I often wanted something to happen to me, to take me from this life
Under the power of manipulation, our minds are slowly changed The plans I had made for myself, he eventually rearranged
I feel there is no winning, only a huge mountain I daily climb Because of the power of a narcissist, he wins each and every time.
It’s like a malignant cancer; we are unaware of the danger at first Then the pain and sickness appear, only then we see the worst
I often say I would have rather him stabbed me with a knife At least I may have healed from that wound - a physical slice.
But the wound that you created, it will never ever heal. It continues to ache. It’s a hurt I daily feel.
When I think back on that life, I can’t remember much Our mind blocks out time we don’t want to touch.
We are only left with the injustice and the sadness we feel in our heartsand the hope that someday we can go on and make a brand new start.
Lynn
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Sep/20/2009, 3:53 pm
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Re: The wife of a Narcissist
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hope that someday we can go on and make a brand new start.
Dear Lynn,
I hope that you have made a brand new start. If not, maybe we on this board can support you and help you to make that brand new start.
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Life's a beach.
Formerly NarcissistJunkee2
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Sep/20/2009, 4:34 pm
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jodyrn
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Re: The wife of a Narcissist
Dear friend:
Yes, thank God I have moved on. I said I would never marry again, but on 8-8-08 I married a man that treats me like a queen. He has such a good heart. My narcissist ex has not only put me through hell but has tried the same with Steve (my new husband). We just try to stay away as much as we can. Hard to do when you have teens. I look forward to the day the kids are grown and I can rid my life of him forever.
Thanks sooo much for your support and reply.
Take care.
Lynn RN
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