DeMarie57
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It never ends!
I am amazed at how Nsis is constantly seeking ways to infiltrate my life. My son said I must be her last thought at night and her first thought in the morning.
In May her husband died. In the weeks leading up to his death she sent orders to me thru several family members and family friends that I was not to visit with him unless I apologized to her for whatever she thinks I've done. When he died she sent word again that I, my husband and children had better not show up for his funeral if I knew what was good for me.
That has now been turned around, as I predicted, that I hated her so badly that I refused to comfort her in her time of need.
But the real kicker is that she friended my ex-husband (we've been divorced 29 years!) on Facebook. The relationship I have with my ex is more than amicable...I know and like his wife and think his kids are awesome. Glad I'm not married to him but happy he has a good life.
Anyway Nsis friended him on FaceBook and proceeded to try to reopen old wounds (30+ years ago) and rewrite history to make me the bad guy in the divorce. It didn't work with exH BUT it infuriated the kids that she took advantage of someone who had no idea there was a problem and that she has made another assault on our family.
The good news is that I didn't feel this too badly. It didn't create the stir Nsis was hoping would happen. I was the Mama Bear for my kids and grandkids and a little for the exH. And they all rallied around me as a family. They closed ranks quickly and refused to budge. I'm so proud of my kids!! The best thing is that her actions stirred the opposite effect of what she was hoping...she didn't damage us...she made us stronger! LOLOLOLOL
It is a good day...the sun is shining finally...and I'm grateful for every gift the Lord has sent my way!
DeMarie
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Oct/28/2009, 9:07 am
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bellvireo
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Re: It never ends!
Hi DeMarie,
I'm so glad you were able to turn your situation around, and make it work to your benefit.
I think that some people will just never see that using pain to erase pain will never work. Sounds like your Nsis and her "body of pain" are very heavy indeed.
That your kids are so supportive and loving of you is quite a testiment to you and your strength and care in raising them. Yeah Mama Bear!!!
Gratitude is such a blessing. It changes everything. So happy for you!!!
hugs, bellvireo 
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Oct/28/2009, 11:07 am
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DeMarie57
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Re: It never ends!
Bell,
Thank you for your comments. They mean a lot to me!
Yes, I think Nsis has a heavy pain load. The Nness in her prevents her from finding positive ways to relieve the pain. Instead, she comforts herself by making those around her miserable. I pray that she becomes so broken that she has to choose between survival and anger. Don't know which she will choose.
My kids are my pride and joy! I can't take credit for their goodness. They have had many excellent examples of loving, kindness and compassion. If I played any part in that, I am honored and very blessed.
A good part of this last episode is that there was no contact with Nsis by my family. No confrontation to fuel her hatred. It was a closed situation that was handled quickly and quietly. I don't even know if she is aware that she is blocked by exH. If the past can be relied upon, she is still gloating that she found an opening! LOL
Have a wonderful day, Bell!
DeMarie
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True healing
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~ © Alison Stormwolf ~
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