1natura
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N employees
In the community service non profit sector I work in managers and people who employ staff often bend over backwards to create a positive workplace - adopt understanding and compassion in the light of misconduct and are often exploited in this by ruthless employees.
I have an employee with some type of personality disorder - possible N - who explodes in a rage anytime she receives criticism for her attitude. She is now smearing my character to anyone who will listen and causing divisions amuong vulnerable volunteers,the wider community as well as my superiors (board members). She twists conversations and flip flops her position so often during discussions it is difficult to know where I am with her. One minute she is sending me strange txts at night saying how wonderful I am - the next minute she is telling my board members that everyone hates me!
She is uber-polite and very well mannered with everyone in public so people percieve her as a nice person. She has only been in the job for 4 months and has caused so much trouble for me in this short time it is affecting my work and morale. I am the manager and have been in the job for 10 years.
I am at my wits end as her actual work performance is OK.
Any suggestions??
Anyone else had dealings with N employees??
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Apr/21/2009, 3:25 pm
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Re: N employees
Sending you mail in the middle of the night. Raging? Change in public/private behaviour. She's giving opinions on you based on nothing but her own thoughts (ie everyone hates you) - ie character assassination about you. discuss this with whoever these others are - she needs to be challenged on that one - who are these 'others' and then get their side of the story. Shje is interfering with you doing your job. Document these things and fire her.
You obviously need a meeting with these board members to clarify what's happening.
Insist on it.
Get some information on her past job performance/ ie interviews/talk with former coworkers.
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Apr/22/2009, 8:39 am
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1natura
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Re: N employees
Thanks for the advice femfree. And yes I be documenting everything.
I have also searched employment relations sites and realised that this employee had been regularly refusing to carry out reasonable and lawful instructions - but I hadn't seen it as she was manipulative in her approach and just did what she wanted to outside the brief of her job description. I didn't want to make waves. She had a problem with even being asked to do something let alone being told what to do by her employer!
Yesterday I was wanting to discuss with her something to do with a series of workshops she was to be involved in - seeing she had some free time. She did not want to stop what she was doing - which was not anything to do with what she is employed to do - and was not anything of importance or urgent to finish etc.. and started to get angry. She refused to discuss the workshop details with me ( just simple details of content, dates etc..) - so I asked her to leave the premises based on - 'refusing to carry out reasonable and lawful instructions' - which is one of the criteria for instant dismissal.
She got VERY angry and there were witnesses - one of whom quietly said in reference to her that - ' there seems to be some issues there'.
After she left - shouting that no - it was SHE who was leaving - one of the elderly volunteers - (apparantly one of the many who hate me according to her) - picked me a bunch of flowers from the garden we have - quite a big deal given that they appeared to be so close.
So it might not be over as such - and expecting some further fall out - but I feel good about my approach and also get the sense that the other people at work - mostly volunteers, had been negatively affected by her constant slandering but didn't know how to deal with it so were waiting for me to act as a manager is supposed to.
Thanks so much for this site.
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Apr/23/2009, 4:00 pm
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Re: N employees
Sounds familiar. So stressful and difficult Natura. Make sure you document everything and make a note of the incident being very factual. Hopefully this might be the end of it, but if not you will need to have your evidence ready. Wishing you lots of luck and strength with this. I know how difficult an N in the workplace is, I have a similar situation to yours, but my N has been quiet for a while now.
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May/9/2009, 12:55 pm
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