LynnS
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So, You Had a Bad Day
We all have setbacks in the recovery process. When bad days happen, it may feel like we've gone backwards, but it's really just a normal part of recovery. We all move in and out through good and bad days. In the beginning there are more good days than bad, but it generally starts to equal out until the scales eventually tip in the other direction. It's when the old tapes start playing in our heads that it feels like that bad day is going to be the beginning of a trend rather than a bump on the road.
I thought I would start this thread to discuss how we can counteract the effect of those bad days.
Music is often helpful for me. It helps take my mind off whatever is plaguing me at the moment. So, here's a little youtube video to set the mood:
Daniel Powter's "You Had A Bad Day"
"You had a bad day
You're taking one down
You sing a sad song just to turn it around
You say you don't know
You tell me don't lie
You work at a smile and you go for a ride
You had a bad day
The camera don't lie
You're coming back down and you really don't mind
You had a bad day"
So, rather than getting in a progressively worse funk when a bad day hits, what can we do to turn it around?
Here are some suggestions from the internet:
Three Steps to Dealing with Emotional Pain
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So… what can you do when you are in pain?
First - Face It - Admit to yourself, even if you can't admit it to anyone else, that you are in pain. Remember that denial is not just a river in Africa. If you absolutely must lie to everyone around you, at least don't lie to yourself. You'll be delusional then ;-).
Second - Figure it out - Why are you in pain? Is it physical? Is it emotional? What is behind it? Is it really about something someone did? Or is it about your disappointed expectations? What is really bothering you?
Third - Feel It - If you actually feel the pain, without trying to stuff it down, or medicate it away, when it subsides, it will actually be gone. The memory of what caused it will be there, to be sure, but the emotional impact of it will be greatly diminished. If you don't do this, it will come back... in a different form. And very often, it will actually manifest itself physically. In the form of headaches, stomachaches, nausea, insomnia, etc. ... you get the picture.
Here's an article with some good tips for what to remember and what to do:
How to Survive a Bad Day
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That the victory is not about not having bad days anymore. The victory is that you can get back up after having one.
Please add any tips you might have for counteracting the effect of a Bad Day.
Lynn
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"The best way out is always through."--Robert Frost
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May/30/2009, 11:00 am
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