LynnS
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Flylady
One of my favorite sites for home organization is Flylady. It's a program to declutter and organize your home and your life. Signup is free and you receive a lot of email reminders throughout the day, so it might be best to use an email addy that you don't mind getting a lot of mail in or even a separate one for this.
It's packed with tips and one of my favorites is to get a timer and do tasks in increments of 15 minutes a day. There are tons of others. Very helpful. I have a Control Journal as the site suggests having that is a lifesaver for keeping things organized.
http://www.flylady.net/
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May/23/2009, 10:33 am
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lotty467
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I think this new section is superb, and good for healing.
I have just returned from holiday, and feel to have moved on in my healing. An inner turmoil has left me, and I have, in its place, discovered ME.
One thing I have begun to do is clean my house thoroughly. Eachday I do a bit more. I clean with attention to detail. Today, I scrubbed the stairs carpet with soapy water, a slpash of pine disinfectant, and a touch of ammonia, and then hoovered up the dirty water out of the carpet with a 'wet' vaccuum. And I am working through the house like this.
I see this behaviour as a sort of rebuilding my inner temple which had been grossly violated and wrecked by NM. I feel much better, and know I am well on the road to recovery.
And when I say 'I feel better', I mean it in a significant way. I know I have really had a hard time with all this trouble. What seems to have happened is this: about 3 years ago I had a big disagreement with my mother. I am a gentle soul (which I like to be, though not a push-over), and my mother is hard and nasty. She 'laid into me', like she was possessed, like Linda Blair in 'The Exorcist', a fantasitc rage, and a stream of evil force eminating from her, like electric. She was not 'collected', and the 'madness' showed through--- a look which cannot be mistaken when the mask is down.
I took quite a bit of abuse like this. She had, I believe, made her mind up to ditch me as a son, because of my opposing concerns, so that she could just do what she wanted regardless, but rather than us just part, she went on a wrecking spree to do as much damage to me as possible, delighting in it, before I had to impose NC. Very traumatic for me. And here's the thing, VERY disturbing for me.
What I think happened was that as she went about this bout of abuse, she was doing it as she had done when I was a child, and so this triggered that disturbing and traumatic abuse I had experienced and suppressed as a child, and this is why it was all so disturbing for me over the last three years. I have had a lot of rage within me, grinding feelings of injustice, etc. However, and this is the good bit: I get the feeling that the attack upon me three years ago which triggered the childhood suffering has allowed me to access that childhood trauma within me, and bring it all up and out, and this is why I am feeling so much better than I ever did. It's just my theory, but it seems to make sense. And now I am really enjoying being ME, and the N doesn't seem to have any more affect on me.
In some ways I'm lucky this 'adult attack' upon me happened.
Anyway, that's what I'm doing, enjoying cleaning my house as my inner temple is rebuilt. And I do the 15 mins at a time.....small manageable bits. But, LynnS, here's a good cleaning tip for you, lol
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i5IW9wK_HNg
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May/23/2009, 8:40 pm
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LynnS
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Re: Flylady
Lotty, I think it is so true that our environment is often a reflection of our inner landscape. I love that you have associated housecleaning with rebuilding your inner temple after your horrific encounter with Nmother. Such a peaceful image, Lotty.
And thank you for the Mary Poppins clip. I loved it then and I love it now but of course had forgotten how much I did. What a treat.
Hugs,
Lynn
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May/24/2009, 8:46 am
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