Adeline667
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Re: Have Gone NC with family
I have been NC with my family for nearly 2 years now. The only time I have had contact is through issues with my grandad's health. I had to laugh when I read the the 'nice to lure me back comment though. Not because I found it funny but it just reminded me of all the times I was lured back. It took such a long time to realise it was the person with the lolly pop luring me into false love and then the ongoing sting and emotional dysfunction afterwards. AND then the months getting away from it again. NC is the only way.
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Jun/10/2009, 4:24 am
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Thanks Midnight Dasher. I am supposed to be getting medical social worker, I hope, dont know if will be this week or next few weeks. I am getting visiting nurse and some lyphedema treatment. This is supposed to be person who could help me get out. I sure hope so. Doctor knows about me being abused too. I want to do new post about mother on this section. Over it, you are right why be around people who abuse me? I even heard through grapevine, that aunt I tried to reach out too, sending her painting and some books, told another relative she hated me. Waste of life to deal with people like this, I am tempted to ask for the painting back and now sorely regret sending it to her.
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Jun/16/2009, 6:23 am
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Lucky One
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Thankyou for sharing your stories everyone - NC is very hard at times, it's good to know others recognise your experiences and understand why you had to take such extreme measures. Talking or venting here makes it easier to resist wanting to justify yourself and your actions to your abusers, who frankly, my dear, couldn't give a damn. We all deserve better than what narcissists are capable of giving.
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Aug/20/2009, 7:55 pm
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Adeline667
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Hi there
I was reading my own reply to the original post. After nearly two years NC I spoke to my mother and father. What a bad idea. I do not to over analyse my reasons why at this stage but boy was it savage and painful. All the reasons why I went NC came flooding back and were so much clearer and in some ways more painful. There are reasons, good reasons why I went no contact. It is even more clear why now. I am saddened and appalled actually that I managed to put up with the tirade of abuse for so long. I suppose a small part of me was still wanting to see if there has been a change.
My parents have gotten on with lives and I am just the 'bad' child. The clearest line I heard her say in the phone call was 'I'm your mother and I can do anything or say anything I want". Why are you like this? Why can't you just be happy.... Can't get any clearer than that. Am I a sucker for pain... probably. But you know. As time goes by it does give me clearer vision about what I experienced and how manipulating the family was in my life up until I went NC.
All I can do is look for tomorrow.
Thanks for your posts guys. It has cheered me up.
Adeline
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Sep/14/2009, 12:21 am
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