octopusarms
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Re: What happens to the Golden Child
I don't know about GCs becoming scapegoats, but I know at least my younger brother sort of replaced me as the GC after I gre up and moved out. I haven't done NC, but I've cut most of the chord, and rebelled quite a bit. Now almost all of my narcissistic father's attention is focused on him, which isn't necessarily positive, as I believe being the GC means you'll get much more invaded.
Anyways, I think the best thing you can do for your siblings no matter what is to take their side, show them that they have support and help them strengthen their independent thinking and defenses against the N parent/s. And let them know that the way their parents behave/treat them is not always "normal".
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Oct/1/2009, 8:51 am
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LynnS
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Re: What happens to the Golden Child
Golden Child/Scapegoat
Good article on the effects of N Mothers. Excerpt:
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The Golden Child can end up very engulfed by the Narcissistic Mother, and her life can end up being emmeshed in hers too. She may well grow without proper boundaries and proper self-identity. She is likely to remain, either forever or for a long time, as a puppet of the Narcissistic Mother.
The Scapegoat on the other hand, is the independent one. She's the one who's driven to seek answers and who may well realise about NPD. She's the one who can break free from the unhealthy dynamics of the family and create a healthy life.
She really is the lucky one at the end.
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"The best way out is always through."--Robert Frost
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Nov/26/2009, 8:32 am
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