topaz123
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to lily blooming.
Hi. Pleased to meet you.
I am so glad that things eventually worked out right for you with your daughter, unfortunately, I could never ever trust my P daughter again.there will be no wonderful re union.....I dread to think what would happen should she ever have any children but as there is such a high genetic risk factor involved, it would be interesting to see what happened...but, should my poor N/P daughter ever walk in my shoes, she would very defintely find herself out in the cold and on her own.
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Feb/11/2009, 2:50 pm
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LillyAngel
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Re: to lily blooming.
Hi Topaz,hi Lily
I read Lily's story too and whilst I am so happy things worked out between you and your daughter Lily,I know that's not going to happen with my son.
I know my story will end up like Topaz's with me having No Contact at the end of this sorry mess.
I know teenagers go through alot of problems and put their parents through hell at times.
The difference is within a few years,the DO change,they ARE sorry...
with an NPD child they don't change.
They just "adapt" to what they think you want,and for a while you're fooled into thinking that they are "getting better"..and then BAM!! out of nowhere their behaviour returns with a vengence...
Whats worse is that with my NPD Son,he has learned to be more clever,more cunning in his behaviour..
Hell,if he can have a Social Worker and the Cops fooled into beleiving him at age 15,God knows what he's going to be capable of at 20.
I hope I'm not around to find out...
Even the family he's staying with a taken in by his "poor,defenceless child" act.
They don't want to throw him out because they don't want to be responsible if anything happens to him!
I am truly glad for you Lily,
I wish I could see that ending for me and my son..
But I've lived with NPD for a long time now,and I don't get my hopes up anymore.
Hugs to you both,
Lillyx
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Feb/11/2009, 3:03 pm
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LilyBlooming
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Oh mercy me. I hope I haven't misled you two.
Only trouble in replying is that I don't feel well enough to do so. I'll try.
The 6 plus years of "hell" when DD#3 was teenager was a LONG time ago. Part of her recovery was being directly hit with lightning -- and survived -- the same day I asked for prayer from a National Prayer Chain. It was truly a miracle but too detailed to explain atm.
Forward many years to 7 years ago when I escaped from her physically abusive father. She turned on me -- although I had been by her side through all of it and beyond.
It has only been since last mid-May that she has reached out to me. I am beyond words of delight that she has done that -- but I think there will always be a little distrust of her remaining.
I guess I just wanted to assure you guys that truly bad times are not always permanent. Important thing is to take care of yourselves so you can handle whatever life throws at you.
Tha'ts all my energy.
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Feb/11/2009, 7:41 pm
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