maria12
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amnesia
I had a telephone conversation with my ND today which was quite friendly, my 3 yr old grandaughter chatted a bit, we exchanged general chat about the holidays. We talked about the holiday cooking and I said I had done some baking and reminded her of the fun holiday cooking we did when she was living at home.
She remembered nothing. Absolutely nothing of the run of visitors we had at this time of the year. She did not remember all the relatives calling. I was shocked as this was always one of the happiest times of the year in our family.
Later I spoke to my son, her brother who reminded me of these times as some of the best. I told him his sister does not remember them and he said he knew she has little memory of her what happened in her childhood. He does not know why apart from stress in her work and marriage.
Many of the frightening things my ND has done she never remembers. Everything is sudden, no warning or when she has got trust again. She has done some awful things to me and we have restarted contact last September because I want to speak and see my little grandaughter.
I am scared for my grandaughter. Her Dad has Aspergers and both parents are in top professions. I fear this "amnesia" is a ploy to undermine me. Her husband has traumatised his own mother and she was not even invited to their wedding. I met her since and she was terribly upset by it.
Is this "amnesia" part of the N/P and has anyone else experienced it?
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Apr/13/2009, 4:06 pm
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mariemarie
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Re: amnesia
The N I was married to for 20 years was like that. Almost no childhood memories apart from those tied to pictures.
So was his N mother. I would ask her about raising her children, what they were like when they were little - she always said "I don't remember, that was a long time ago." Wierd.
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Apr/14/2009, 8:34 am
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maria12
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Re: amnesia
It's so odd. It's as if she's trying to get all control in her life by erasing her history and those who love and cared for her.
During rages she has come out with unimaginable lies about things that never happened in her childhood.
We learnt long ago not to challenge these lies as it was impossible to keep up with them. Could she actually believe these things she has said and refuses to acknowledge the reality as in her mind she must be right?
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Apr/14/2009, 1:08 pm
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Re: amnesia
Yes, Maria. certainly have experienced it!My Art studio was under the house, and all my paintings, finished and unfinished, plus art books, {some given to me as prizes at Art college}, were in it. One day, I had a row with my teenage daughter, Deborah, re the"Kiss" posters she had in her room. Remember the guy with black eye make up who usedf to stick his tongue out? I asked her to remove them, and she refused, so one day I took them down, and tore them up. Only 2 of them. Probably that was wrong, but it certainly did not warrant her response. When I got back from my teaching job the next day, I discoverd shed totally vandalised my studio. She had painted over some of my paintings, -one of which had been sold and was waiting to be picked up. She smashed to smithereens some watercolours , which were framed with glass. She destroyed my art books.
She splashed red paint on a very good painting of "Jonathon Livingstone seagull", which now hangs on my wall.
2 years ago, {some 23 years after she had splashed it with red paint,} she asked me how the red splotch of paint got there.!! She seemed to have totally forgotten that she did it! Also, I was working on an over life sized mural of the resurrected Christ, -it was a commission from a Monastery. She painted
"F---ing B---tch!" all over it, in letters 10 inches high. I had to destroy it, as the evil energy on it ws very toxic. And in 1981, she thre a red hot, heavy steam iron at my head, -it missed by literally inches, leaving a dent in the door frame. She has no memory of this either, and says I made it up.She also "forgets" beating my legs with a bamboo pole, leaving purple bruises on them. She claimed I was attacking HER.
She will be 45 in 2 months, and she has never acknowledged or apologised for any of the unbelievably awful things she has don to me, and I dont suppose she ever will, she is always "perfect" and I am an "unfit Mother" to quote both my N daughters! Maia free.
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May/27/2009, 10:41 pm
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