LeftHimIntheDust
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this is so hard
xn moved out apr 25, and may 8 I lost my job. I have been struggling to get by, but I should have registered with the food bank 2 weeks ago. I held off until today, and after I called I had a big cry.
xn has been smacking our kids while they visit him. No one seems to care but me and the counselor at the kids school. I don't know how to keep them away from their dad if they want to see him. I don't know how to keep them safe. I am getting treated like garbage. What fun being the safe parent.
I keep looking for the silver lining. Yeah, it is heaven not to have to live with xn, but I hate being so broke I can't pay my bills or buy groceries. I need a job soooo bad! I really want to be working within the next month. Please send me any positive ju-ju, prayers, or well wishes.
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Sep/13/2009, 3:21 pm
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justmenmydogsnow
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Re: this is so hard
Oh, LeftHim--My heart goes out to you. Yes, it is so hard and you definitely are in my prayers for peace and a job very soon. I lost my job, too. It makes everything else so much harder (as if it wasn't hard enough already, right?).
Do you have or can you get any evidence that he is hitting the children? Do they have red marks left on them? If so, you should definitely be taking pictures of them and getting any corroborating evidence that you can. Do you already have a parenting plan? Or visitation agreement in place? If not, do the kids have to go visit their dad? You don't want to go against any court orders. Are any in place yet? Be sure to DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. You never know how it will help you to get through this in the best possible way for your kids.
Be strong for them. They need you now more than ever.
Sending you all kinds of best wishes and prayers for strength to get through this--
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Sep/13/2009, 5:48 pm
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Re: this is so hard
Thank you JustMe! Right now validation is all I need. Tomorrow it is back to the job hunt. I do believe it will all turn out well, but just this interim time is rough.
As for the kids, there were no marks, but I did have the school counselor interview them and document what they told her. He doesn't have to leave marks when he is slapping them in the face. It is illegal no matter what. I will just keep doing what is working, and taking those babysteps and it will all fall into place.
Thanks again!!
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Sep/13/2009, 10:10 pm
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Re: this is so hard
My thoughts and prayers are with you, too! Good luck and do all you can to keep those kids safe.
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Oct/25/2009, 9:04 pm
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