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feeling like a big bad B
Ok I made a stand with one of my roomates that was suppose to move in with us.(to the new place) She didn't have her share of the rent and didnt bother talking to any of us about it. Once agian was gonna see how long I would let it slide.
Well My husband is not working very much so I count on her portion more then before. So it is a big deal now. She knows the situtation. Seems like she is just focused on her stuff. She doesnt clean up after herself. She doesnt clean the house. She doesnt pitch in for food. The list could go on.
So I told her she would have to find another place to stay. I am so done. So much stuff going on just too much to list. So I figured ok we have helped her for almost 8 months now and she has done nothing. So off with her head so to speak.
WELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL She doesnt have any place to stay. She is going to be living in her work van. (We work for the same company) Yeah here we go.. MICHELLE is a ***** ... Kicking out a 29 year old into her van. I don't know if she is bluffing or what. I just know I don't feel good about it. On top of everything eles going on. I am about to burst.
I did something last night that I havnt done in years. (needless to say something that is not good.)
PEOPLE SUCK... IM TIRED OF ALL OF THIS **** NOBODY EVER LISTENS TO ME....
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Re: feeling like a big bad B
I'm so sorry you're dealing with this hun.
You are a great person, you deserve to have better people around you. Not people who will take advantage of you.
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6/8/2009, 10:44 am
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Re: feeling like a big bad B
Hun, I think you done the right thing. There is always going to be an excuse. As long as you keep 'helping' her, she will NEVER help herself. I know it's hard, but you are not responsible for her.
We are here for you. Throw a tantrum, scream, kick.... it might make you feel better 
I cannot remember if someone here in the forums posted this at one time or if I ran across it elsewhere.. but here's a good releasing negativity/anger spell:
Take a piece of paper and write your angry/negative thoughts down. Write whatever you want.. the worse the better. When you are done, take the paper and rip to shreds. Go crazy ripping it a part. Yell if you want. Afterward, pick up the paper and burn. Take the ashes and place in the palm of your hand. When you feel like you are ready blow the ash in the wind.. releasing all the negative/anger with it.
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Aries, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. Zonipa is right. You are doing the right thing even if it doesn't feel good. You are just a very good, kind person which is why you feel bad; but DON'T!! She is taking advantage of you. She will not help herself if you keep allowing her to continue in her current patterns.
I am sending a LOT of positive love your way my friend. 
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Re: feeling like a big bad B
Thanks Ladies
Here is the lastest and greatest. She told my husband today that she is donating all of herself. She is only going to take a small back pack with her. WTF....
She has some dishes and microwave bike tv Ect. Not a whole bunch but Gezzs.. Is she trying to GUILT TRIP ME..
I told her we would store it for her and you know what her reply was???
Why do you want to store it?
Gezzzs.. Come on give me a frickin break.
Right now I feel like bashing her head in. BUT I wont.
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6/8/2009, 4:29 pm
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Stick to your guns AF. You can't control her and what she does, just what you do. Don't take on the guilt. Just do what you had planned.
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6/8/2009, 4:31 pm
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Stay strong, Aries! I'm sure you may hear several more 'boo waaaa' stories, but as Morika finely put "stick to your guns" 
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I agree. You have to stick to it and do not let het guilt you!
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Re: feeling like a big bad B
Sorry to hear you are going throught this. Stay strong and dont feel bad about it. Im actully dealing with somewhat of the same issue. Im always out trying to save my friends and I get walked on every time. And this last time (right now) Im not letting it happen any more. I gave my friend that currently lives with me two weeks as of last weekend to find some where else to go. She has been staying with me for over two months and I have not gotten any rent money or gas money for driving her around every where. I felt bad at first but now I dont. You shouldn't feel bad either, You were the one being the nice friend, and she took advantage of you being nice. Keep your head! 
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