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We sure are. I miss her. :(
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10/7/2009, 6:55 am
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We definitely are...and we all miss her!
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10/7/2009, 10:26 am
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Re: Keep Bellia in your thoughts and prayers (new 10/6/09)
Hello Everyone
Thank You so much for the wonderful prayers and thoughts they all mean so much to me.
I am back in Colorado as of Sunday. Things have been pretty busy since my return. Drove back with a 14ft uhaul full of "Memories" We finally got the whole thing unloaded yesterday along with removing things that will be replaced with Mom and Dad's furniture. My house looks like a tornado has gone thru. I have a lot of items to put on Craig's List.
A big Thank You to Queeny and everyone else that kept my "board" going while I was away. I feel so blessed and loved by everyone here after reading everyone's comments. Thank You again for your Support.
I am still pretty emotional and I believe I will be like this for sometime. With all the Stress and Chaos that has been dealt to me I have yet to fully grieve for my Mom's Passing.
Now to fill you all in on what has happened. I will try to make this as short as possible and I apologize if this post turns into a "Book"
My brother and I are at War with each other. Before my Mom's passing my brother and I did NOT have the greatest relationship. He was a terrible disappointment to my parents because of his actions. He could not hold a job including the Service (Air Force) He was constantly in trouble by the law (in Jail Twice) Dad had to bail him out both times. Before Dad passed my brother promised my Dad that he would take care of Mom. Yes he really took care of my mom alright. That poor woman with her health would call me crying almost everyday because she would call my brother who lived less than a mile from her to help carry groceries in or something to only be told that she was a demanding B**** and that he would not do it. Ok now you have a little history on my brother so when I type the rest of this craziness you will understand a little better.
When I arrived in NY my brother and I talked about Mom's wishes that had been told to us years before she passed and how she wanted things handled. 1. She told me to be prepared for a fight with my brother because the way she wanted things was basically for me to handle it all. Mom was in the process of giving things to me before her death everytime I would visit. 2. If one of us wanted the house the other had to buy the other out. I was fine with that and so was my brother. I did not want the house but he did. So the plan was for my brother to buy my half out. $50,000 the house was appraised at $100,000. He was prepared to do that. I got to thinking how was he going to do that when he had no job and only an income that the state gave him because of an injury that he sustained while working. So we went to my parent's lawyer because mom never signed her will UGH I believe whole heartedly that my brother had something to do with that. The will was constructed on my mom's one computer. I had a copy of the will again unsigned. My brother did something to my mom's computer to where the thing would not boot up for nothing. Mom told me that before he got a hold of it it worked fine and was all backed up etc. Well needless to say the computer is shot. So according to the lawyer he did have some things that mom wanted done upon her passing and the one thing was the house and buyout. My brother and I were to divide the estate EQUALLY...I was fine with that. But things changed when my brother met a new woman on line and she moved in with him that is when things went sour. She would walk into my mom's house and start eyeing things that SHE wanted. Now my mom never met this woman. She showed up in my brother's life two days after my arrival and on the second day she had suitcases in hand.
My brother started becoming a totally different person and would back out of what he originally agreed to. By the time everything was said not Done I was not getting anything. Now mind you we were supposed to divide equally....Here are the articles that I took (my half) All of mom's sewing items...machines, material, thread, patterns etc. Some of mom's clothing (her and I are the same size) I took a couch, a chair, some memorable trinkets, and a dish set that has been handed down from my great great grandmother and a 18kt gold flatware set that was handed down from my grandmother. Now here is my brother's half...House, two cars, full living room set, full bedroom set, full computer room set, full dining room set, piano, three antique tables, kitchen set, numerous dishes, and the list goes on.
So I have petitioned to become administrater which is just like Executor of the Will. I have kicked him out of the house and I want to sell it along with the one car. For me to do this I have to become administrator because I do not have the authority to sign anything because everything is in Mom's name.
Now for the Robbery....I have a gut feeling that my brother was involved. And according to the detective and my lawyer this not out of the ordinary for one sibling to do this before another gets into town. I was in shock. But a day after the "Robbery" a LARGE sum of money showed up in my brother's account. Again did not think anything of it at the time but when I went to the jewelry store to sell some of the remainding jewelry that I did find when going thru the house to pay some of mom's debts I asked for receipts for the lawyer the woman said that they (the store) did not want to get involve in any dispute because Marc (my brother) was a very good customer of their's...Hmmmm I thought that to be very interesting. Because according to Marc he had never stepped foot in that store. I had asked Marc where exactly this store was and he was supposedly unsure of where it was and that I had to yahoo map it.
So I went back to the lawyer to appoint a VERY good friend of mine who I have known since I was a freshman in high school to take care of the selling of the house, estate sell etc. He agreed to let her take care of everything since I am here in Colorado and the house is in NY. The day I left things got hairy...Now my brother knew Patti was filling in for me via the lawyer he agreed to it all. When Patti got there my brother changed the locks and showed up at the house with a police escort. Not only was Patti taking care of the Estate for me but was also taking care of my mom's two parrots since my brother was going into the hospital for surgery on monday. Oh let me back up the day before I left me and Derrell were staying at my mom's house. Two hours after we got up the power was cut. He had called in to shut the power off. So that night we had to stay in a motel.
So gang there you have it....Mess isn't it. I also forgot to mention that not only is my brother being investigated for the Robbery, he is also being investigated for Drugs. He does smoke Marijuana. He claims it helps with his pain. Probably does but it is not legal in NY like it is here for medicinal reasons. I am also thinking that he is under the influence of other things as well...like his prescription pain killers which are narcotics.
Well it ended up turning into a book and I apologize. I will be on from time to time still have to get my house in order along with dealing with this whole mess.
THANK YOU AGAIN EVERYONE!!!!
Hugs and Love
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10/7/2009, 12:20 pm
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Justbec
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Aw Bellia, I'm so sorry to hear this. Sometimes family can be a royal pain! I hope things work out for you and you can get back to a normal life.
And welcome home lady. We sure missed you. {{hugs}}
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10/7/2009, 12:54 pm
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Re: Keep Bellia in your thoughts and prayers (new 10/6/09)
Oh Bellia, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with all this extra stress on top of the grieving. Know that you're not alone...we all care and we're here. And don't worry about the length of your post...vent away, sometimes it's exactly what you need. We understand. 
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10/7/2009, 2:34 pm
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Justbec
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Karma rules... He WILL get his.  Hang in there kiddo. We miss you.
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10/14/2009, 11:43 am
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I just wish I could take away some of your craziness, and sorrow and replace it with peace....I know that will be hard to find for sometime....but it will come, Sweetpea. Till then, you have all of us our here in Cyber space. We might be faceless people with funny names, but we do love you for who you are and we do care deeply what happens..
