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Blue Jeanz
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Re: did I miss my turn??
Aw Stars, I'm so sorry that you are feeling down about things. 
My sister is like you, she is a giver.
You give of yourself so much that you actually lose yourself in there somewhere.
No, I don't think you missed your turn! It's never too late to turn it around.
There are a lot of good books out there to help you take control of your life, you should browse the bookstores or Amazon.com and read one.
I know it seems impossible for a giver to put themselves first. My sister says she feels selfish when she does that. But that's poo! I don't think it's selfish at all!
Please give it a try and start living your life with YOU first. That doesn't mean you have to ignore the needs of everyone else but they need to take responsibility for their own lives too! Just ease up a little at a time. You know how they always say to take "baby steps."
Big hugs to you! 
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6/24/2006, 6:55 pm
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Tinkerbelllsweetnesstina
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No, I don't think you missed your turn! It's never too late to turn it around.
So true, I can't imagine what your going through sounds like you have a lot on your plate, going here and there.
Your age shouldn't be held against you. Your in your 40's that's still considered young. I wish you the best with everything and will pray that everything gets sorted out for you. 
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6/30/2006, 8:56 am
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mother367
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Re: did I miss my turn??
I know where you are coming from. I quit work when my daughter was 9 months old- well, she turned 11 years old yesterda. I miss the people (i was a waitress- great money)
When my oldest got ready for school, i told myself that i will know what is going on at that school and i will be involved. Well, that's when i should have been slapped upside the head. I am a Brownie leader, I am a school cordinator for browines (place kids that need placed), I am presidnet of the PTO- and when committees aren't filled or officers are let go- well, that's my job also.
Plus, i babysit before and after school. i know that i am forgetting something somewhere- i dont' can't think now.
I get real upset with my husband- he's a self employed painter- cause i feel that everything is put on my shoulders. He doesn't understand that he is out of this house for 8-12 hours a day- i am here, and sometimes i dont' know where i am. I take the kids to the grocery with me- all the kids have completed the library program for the summer- my kids are getting ready for a KIDS IN COLLEGE class next week- i told every parent what week and time that my kids were doing the college programs- i dont' think anyone signed their kids up to do them. So, my kids will be gone for 2 hours for a whole week, and i'll still have kids- CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!!!!!!!!
I would really like to go back to school- but, when do i have the time- what do i want to be- so many questions- i am 43 which is still young- i think i am scared to go to school due to past health problems. (cancer) But, i can't stay home. Maybe if i continue to come here- i will get some good output from the LADIES.
Well, i need to go outside before one of the kids get killed- LOL
have a great day :bath
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7/6/2006, 1:21 pm
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mother367
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Re: did I miss my turn??
Thanks - and you thought i was going to be mad.
I tell everyone that i have NO written on my forehead, but, i was looking in the mirror when i did it, and it says ON. LOL
I know what you mean about slowing down. I was given a wakeup call 2 years ago when i got sick(cancer). I had to slow down. The principal at the school was wonderful- i turned all my duties over to my vice president- but, before i had my surgery, i discovered our treasurer of the PTO had stolen 20,000.00 from the PTO. it was a good thing that i was having surgery a week or so later,, i let everyone else do the work, i did sit back and watch with a whip in my hands. I do believe, that God was telling me to slow down. it was 6 months that i couldnt' do anything (2 months of that was summer) When i would visit the school, the principal went crazy and told me to leave. I finally told him- hey, you are my friend, i do listen to you, but, when i come up here, it's like i dont' have a problem in the world- i am walking away from it all. Now when i am at home- it seems like i am faced with it smack as soon as i walk in the house. He understood and never said another thing to me about coming up to school again when i was sick.
I have made a promise to myself- once school starts- i will only be up there when necessary. I have gotten into exercising and i want to continue that - so after my kids leave in the am- i will have 1 hour to exercise- i usually have a couple lunch dates each week with a few friends= but, i do plan on cutting back on my activities. it will be hard, but, what would happen if i died tomorrow- someone else would fill my shoes.
DONT' EVER THINK YOU MAKE ME MAD- OH, THE CAPS- I DONT' HAVE MY GLASSES ON= TOO LAZY TO GET UP AND GET THEM.
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