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Saijen SilverWolf
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What to do when life gets out of control?
What do you do when it seems that things are coming at you from all directions?
Work seems to be requiring more from you?
Kids all want your attention?
Spouse needs your attention?
Friends are feeling left out?
Your body shuts down due to the stress...you end up sick...what do you do?
You're in pain....no one seems to notice, or care?
How do you handle life's stresses, the things it throws at you?
Do you pitch a fit? Meditate? Vent to your best friend? Sulk? Throw nasty comments, intended or not, at the person?
Or do you move past it? Learn and grow from it?
Are you secure enough in yourself that you don't feel the need to justify the things you do to other people?
Do you make sure you have YOU time? That you're not always doing what other people expect from you if it means harming yourself or your health..mentally or physically? Do you give in to peer pressure?
Are you willing to compromise? Are you too solid in how you think that you can't "bend with the wind"? Do you just accept another's view of you and how you do things, to the point that you allow them to manipulate you into doing things how they think they should be done? Or, are you willing to listen to their views, take from them what is useful to you, and toss the rest?
Be your own person. Do not allow anyone, or anything, else to dictate how you live your life. Own yourself. Be confident enough that you never feel the need to explain yourself to others, as long as there is no REAL reason to have to explain yourself.
Spend your time doing the things that matter to you. If you spend an immense amount of time online messaging, chatting or playing games, then you need to get out and get a life. Message boards, Instant Messengers, E-mail..it'll all be there when you get back.
How do you cope?
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10/20/2007, 11:00 pm
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
how do I cope....
well the vodka helps.
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Saijen SilverWolf
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
LOL..I hear ya there, Nyquil!!
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
Well, I do end up sick in bed once in a while. (*greets her migraines*)
Usually, I start to think once I'm comfortable, and then I tap, on whatever comes up. That often helps, and I like to think that I'm growing through this.
On bad days, I play a computer game until my mind has run on blank long enough for me to have recovered my composure.
When I'm really lucky, I take a walk with a good friend, we talk things over, and I feel much better afterwards.
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
I make contingency plans
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Saijen SilverWolf
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
I still have a problem, at times, with feeling secure enough in myself, but it's getting better.
This path has taught me that I am my own person, and that no one has the right to dictate to me what I do, how I do it, when I do it and where I do it. Not talking about legal issues, or work. Those go without saying.
I am talking, strictly self issues. I think that growing up, and in my last marriage, I didn't know how to own myself. Since leaving my first husband, and finding myself on this path, I have figured a lot of things out. All for the betterment of myself and my family. My ex used to walk all over me.....something I refuse to allow any more, I don't care who the person is. I've learned to stand up for myself, and have figured out that there are times when explaining yourself is a benefit, and times when it just isn't going to help, so best to just not worry about it.
It sounds like you all have decent ways of handling life when it comes at you full force. 
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
When everything seems to be coming my way, and I feel cornered...I take time for myself.
I do things that I never take the time to do. Like take a long hot bath with plenty of bubbles and candles. Or I fix myself a cup of good ole peppermint or chai tea, and sit outside on the deck and just listen to the sounds of nature.
And if those two dont usually help...I turn on some Native American chants and meditate.
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
Be your own person. Do not allow anyone, or anything, else to dictate how you live your life. Own yourself. Be confident enough that you never feel the need to explain yourself to others, as long as there is no REAL reason to have to explain yourself.
Spend your time doing the things that matter to you.
I LOVE this, and it's something I need to keep remembering.
I get outside, get quiet, BREATHE, do yoga, breathe. Talk to a friend if one is available.
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Saijen SilverWolf
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
Cat, this was a hard lesson for me and even now I tend to backslide on it at times.
There is a recent case of that, but I won't go into it....it's not necessary....what I will say is that in that case, I began to explain myself, then remembered that I didn't owe that person an explanation, so just stopped mid explanation and "walked" away from the situation. I felt better for not giving in to that need, and I regained myself a lot quicker.
I've done this on many occassions, for different things. Some, trying to explain my path, some why I do things the way I do them, etc. If someone is truly interested and not being judgmental, I have no problem explaining things, but when I feel that I have to explain to make someone else comfortable.....that's not owning who I am...that gives them ownership and I refuse to do that anymore.
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Re: What to do when life gets out of control?
I disconnect, take a step back and look at my life like it is someone else. I ask for guidance from the Divine, then without all the emotion think of what advice I would give if this was a friend.
It works well for me.
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